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  • The ethical problem with hierarchy

    In the polyamorous communities, traditionally “hierarchical polyamory” is considered a dirty phrase. The meaning attached to the term is heavily associated with a negative connotation and often during discussions or arguments, hierarchy is defined as an unethical element. One reason for that is the restrictive nature of the introduced hierarchy – it, more or less,…

  • Compare-Me-Not – Don’t tell me I’m the best. Pt2

    Part 1 is here. Certainly, the experience in polyamory plays a great role when it comes to changing our habits of comparing. The more we practice, the clearer we see how pointless it is to compare other people or ourselves to others. We see how comparisons do not bring us anything positive, but they bring…

  • Compare-Me-Not – Don’t tell me I’m the best. Pt1

    Part 2 is here. When I was in my junior school years, a classmate of mine asked me who my best friend was. The question puzzled me because I heard the phrase “best friend” for the very first time. Realizing the meaning of the phrase provoked me to assume that if I have a best…

  • Polyamory and activism

    I happen to mention in conversations that take a turn to the poly topic that I am trying to develop a blog about ethical non-monogamy in Bulgaria. When asked if I am an activist I answer with ‘no’ because I don’t find myself to be one. If it is not activism though, then what exactly…

  • I am Iliyan

    1. Tell us about yourself. Hello, my name is Iliyan, 33 years old, heterosexual. I am a versatile artist, I deal with art in several ways – music, photography, graphic design, montages, poetry, the study of dreams and consciousness, etc. I am self-taught in everything I specialize in and make a living of, I like…

  • Polyamorous myths and legends

    In this article, we will go through and examine some of the more popular clichés and prejudices against polyamory and polyamorous people. As an introduction to the topic, and to get a closer look at what society believes are mandatory qualities of ENM people in the more developed countries, I allowed myself to go through…