Author: People of poly
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I am Mehrnash
1. Tell us about yourself.Mehrnash, 30s, researcher, artist, musician, mother, adventurer and lover of cats. 2. When and how did you realise that polyamory/ENM was a thing and you could transition into this lifestyle? Knew that I was non-monogamous since I was an adolescent, but I did not have an idea what I was. In…
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What’s the problem with dating mono people when we’re poly?
A person would think that by embracing the poly philosophy, new horizons for dating people with a similar lifestyle and worldview, would open automatically. Practice, on the other hand, shows that this is not always the case, especially in areas such as the Balkan Peninsula, where ENM is not yet very widespread and there are…
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How to apologise “properly”. Rebuilding trust. Part 2
Continuation of Part 1. If the storm of negative emotions has passed its peak, we can engage in a detailed retrospective, during which we can discuss what has happened and why. The aim of such a conversation could be only one – to identify the lessons learned and to decide together how to act in similar situations in the future. But…
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How to apologise “properly”. Rebuilding trust. Part 1.
Part 2 coming soon. It even happens to happy living people that sometimes they do something stupid to hurt their loved ones. Usually, they regret it afterward and are willing to fix the damage. In ENM it is unbelievable how many hoes can be stepped on – overstepping boundaries, violating rules, sanctimony, not enough communication, too much redundant or…
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A non-practical guide to ENM
Let’s say that ENM is not a new concept for us, but we don’t have any practical experience. Let’s assume we are in a monogamous relationship, and we’ve decided with our partner that we want to switch to ENM. I want to take a look at a few “Yes!” behaviours and practices that can be…
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Not an ENM ad
In my life journey, the idea of ENM did not come to me from the “outside”, it was somehow self-generated in my consciousness at first. Back then ENM was not such a widespread lifestyle model that I could’ve found out about from somewhere, to study it, and to decide to try and implement it. Instead,…
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Surviving Dating Apps
I use dating apps because this is one of the few possible ways for me to get in touch with new acquaintances and find partners. However, my attitude towards dating apps is rather contradictory – I just accept them as a necessary evil. I always had inner resistance towards the use of dating applications. Maybe…
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Why am I no longer afraid of the New Relationship Energy
When the poly lifestyle was still in the realm of thought for me and not brought into practice, one question constantly bothered me. It was the question of managing the energy of the new relationship. Let’s take things one step at a time and define the New Relationship Energy (NRE). This is in fact the…
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I am Tricia McMillan
1. Tell us about yourself. I am Tricia McMillan – the alias I use on Feeld and some swinger sites. Brings me a lot of joy. I’m a cisgender bisexual woman, writer and journalist. 2. When and how did you realise that polyamory/ENM was a thing and you could transition into this lifestyle? I can’t…
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My monster isn’t green eyed
In this article I will unveil my personal journey through jealousy – what has happened to me, how did it affect me, and how it changed my attitude and personal beliefs. I will outline what became easier with time and experience, and in contrast, in what I did not undergo any development. What led me…