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Author: People of poly

  • The ethical problem with hierarchy

    In the polyamorous communities, traditionally “hierarchical polyamory” is considered a dirty phrase. The meaning attached to the term is heavily associated with a negative connotation and often during discussions or arguments, hierarchy is defined as an unethical element. One reason for that is the restrictive nature of the introduced hierarchy – it, more or less,…

  • Compare-Me-Not – Don’t tell me I’m the best. Pt2

    Part 1 is here. Certainly, the experience in polyamory plays a great role when it comes to changing our habits of comparing. The more we practice, the clearer we see how pointless it is to compare other people or ourselves to others. We see how comparisons do not bring us anything positive, but they bring…

  • Compare-Me-Not – Don’t tell me I’m the best. Pt1

    Part 2 is here. When I was in my junior school years, a classmate of mine asked me who my best friend was. The question puzzled me because I heard the phrase “best friend” for the very first time. Realizing the meaning of the phrase provoked me to assume that if I have a best…

  • Polyamory and activism

    I happen to mention in conversations that take a turn to the poly topic that I am trying to develop a blog about ethical non-monogamy in Bulgaria. When asked if I am an activist I answer with ‘no’ because I don’t find myself to be one. If it is not activism though, then what exactly…

  • I am Iliyan

    1. Tell us about yourself. Hello, my name is Iliyan, 33 years old, heterosexual. I am a versatile artist, I deal with art in several ways – music, photography, graphic design, montages, poetry, the study of dreams and consciousness, etc. I am self-taught in everything I specialize in and make a living of, I like…

  • Polyamorous myths and legends

    In this article, we will go through and examine some of the more popular clichés and prejudices against polyamory and polyamorous people. As an introduction to the topic, and to get a closer look at what society believes are mandatory qualities of ENM people in the more developed countries, I allowed myself to go through…

  • I am Lifejoy

    1. Tell us about yourself. I am Lifejoy. I am a software developer by heart and studied physics at university. I also love music, gym, to connect to people and exchange ideas. I have 3 teenagers and long time NP. 2. When and how did you realise that polyamory/ENM was a thing and you could…

  • Are you really ENM if you haven’t told your children and parents?

    I recently posted a topic related to polyamory in one of the most popular Bulgarian forums. The thread managed to survive a full 4 days before being locked. The forum is mostly attended by women over 20 years of age and most of them have reached different stages of their journey as parents. I could…

  • I am Wang

    1. Tell us about yourself.Hi I’m Wang!Lawyer, pilot, carer of a tiny human, and a bisexual/queer woman. 2. When and how did you realise that polyamory/ENM was a thing and you could transition into this lifestyle?Polyamory was ingrained in me since I was very young, or at least the feeling of monogamy was never normal…

  • Survey 2024 (No longer available)

    To open the survey in English, click on the logo below. We created a short survey for you. We hope it will give us some demographics about the ENM people, what type of ENM is typically practiced and what difficulties people might have faced. The survey is also asking with whom you tend to be…